I will preface this entry by making the following points:
* This is not pointed any any specific person or job. These are just things that happen in companies that drive me UP THE WALL.
* I’m feeling a little stabby today, so I may rant a bit. If you don’t want to hear it, just skip this post and we’ll be back to knitting and spinning soon!
If I may, there are two things in this world that drive me crazier than anything else. And since they keep coming up across all the jobs I will just take a moment to tell you what they are so that we can get along peacefully in the future.
1. Tell me what you would like, and how you would like it.
If there’s a certain way you would like something done, please tell me that. If you need something, please just ask. I’m friendly and I don’t bite (much) and as long as it’s a request that is respectfully made, I am more than happy to do my best. HOWEVER, please don’t ASSUME that I know how to do it if we’ve never discussed it. I know most people are doing it the way you want it. I also know that I routinely get omitted from those emails so I don’t always get the message. If I’ve been doing something wrong for (eeps!) 6 months we’ll both be better served if we have a conversation about it than if you rant and rave about how terrible I am until another of our coworkers suggests you just talk to me about it since she’s never had to ask me to do anything more than once. And maybe, just MAYBE, you could give me the benefit of a doubt since I’m generally pretty dependable and more than willing to fix my mistakes.
2. Will you show me how to do this?
What I say: Will you show me how to do this?
What they hear: Will you do this for me?
I can’t tell you how many times I have asked someone to show me how to do something, to have them treat me like I just sent them outside to pick up dog droppings. When I don’t know how to do something, I ask. When you explain how to do it, I take notes so that I don’t have to ask you again. IF I have to ask you more than once I am personally mortified that I didn’t get it the first time. BUT this doesn’t mean I want you to do it for me. If I wanted you to do it for me, I might ask you to do it for me. But I meant what I said and I said what I meant (and an elephant’s faithful 100 percent!).
With all due respect,
the feisty yarn pirate